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How To Win An Argument With Your Girlfriend

There are proven methods of persuasion that have been studied for decades. So how do you apply these methods when you want to win an argument with your girlfriend?

First, it's important to know that these methods work best in moderation. You can't do this everytime you get into an argument or it will become apparent what you are trying to do.

It becomes less effective, and even resented when she sees it coming.

Concession

This is an old salesman trick. A long time ago there were door to door salesmen who used to peddle vacuums and other types of household items. It seems like a lost cause doesn't it? What a waste of time.

But some of them were tremendous sales people, with one of the more powerful techniques being concession.

You would first give an elaborate presentation for the most expensive item you had, knowing a sale is very unlikely. Instead of accepting the "no", you would concede the large purchase and offer a much smaller and reasonably priced item.

It works with everything. You know those super mega girl scout cookie sellers? They do the same stuff.

So when you're in the middle of an argument and you have both staked your claim to what you want, concede to something you don't want but follow up with a request that you do want.

You'll be amazed at how effective this is.

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Reciprocity

Have you ever gotten a holiday card and felt obligated to return the gesture? Of course you have, because it's part of our culture. When someone gives you a gift you return the favor.

Like clockwork. If someone gives you a Christmas gift you feel obligated to go buy them something, right?

It isn't limited to physical gifts though. You can also apply the rules of reciprocity to your relationship. If you do something for you girlfriend that is beyond what is expected she will feel obligated to return a gesture of kindness.

Now what you do with that feeling of obligation is entirely your decision. You can use it to gain leverage in an argument or whatever you're in the mood for.


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